I’ll admit that I’m very fortunate. I work in a field that is my true passion. I am a technologist, and more specifically, a software architect. I also work for a great company that allows me to be creative, efficient, and impactful.
However, a recent article I read just made me realize that my passion has been eaten away by something else.
I used to work late… just because. If I was working on some particularly hairy algorithm, or software problem, I would work until it was complete. I got a rush out of it, and a deep sense of satisfaction that I could turn something complex into something elegantly simple.
I would go home and read technical books, online articles, and samples about up-and-coming languages or tools. I would be constantly writing sample applications in new languages, or playing around with a new database schema editor or programming environment. I would also join discussion groups, and attend local user group meetings just to meet and talk with people who shared my passion.
Most of that is gone now.
Now, my overriding thought is my two girls. They are my passion. Growing up and in my early adulthood, I knew I wanted a family and wanted to be the best father I could be. I thought about how I would raise my children to be competent, intelligent, resourceful adults.
Now that I am actually a father, I’ve realized two things:
Gone are the days of coming home and reading books and magazines about technology. Now I come home and am welcomed by two little girls who scream, “Daddy!! You’re home!!” and want hugs and kisses.
How can you not be passionate about that?
4 Responses for "My passion no longer takes up all my time"
Well put. In my opinion, the hard part is more specific to changing the priorities so that time with the children can be higher. The actual time with the children is pretty easy.
Steve,
As a “new” father also, I find myself going through the same phase. My son just turned 1 year old a month ago. This past year I’ve totally dedicated myself to be a part of his life along with my wife. And the rewards are endless. Coming home to see that smile on his face saying “Dada’s here!” while crawling fast towards the door makes even a bad day in the office a great day!
Every little milestone is a celebration and we do our best to record each one and create family traditions in the process. This morning I was noticing how much he has grown and it all goes by so fast.
My passion for programming is still here, but it will always be around throughout my career. Technology is always changing and in this field, we get to learn or experience something new all the time. Having a child and spending quality time with them; specially the early years creating memories and forming a good foundation; we only have one small chance.
Thanks for sharing this post!
Cheers..
100% there with you! I’ve had the exact same experience. You made the correct choice. Great post!
I respect the choice many couples make to not have children, but I sometimes wish I could adequately communicate to friends with no kids that there is nothing in life that I’ve found to be as fulfilling as loving and being loved by your own child. There are literally days when work/life in general has not been good and when I walk in the door and they come running from the other room with arms open wide, I get tears in my eyes. I never knew that sort of love before.
Thanks for the post Steve. I’m glad I’m not the only one who gets to feel that way.
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